"Transitioning is the hardest thing in life"! That is what I hear a lot from start-ups, entrepreneurs and individuals that are going through changes in their lives. Transition is simply put any change we experience in life, where we go from an old to a new situation.
Growing up, we constantly experience changes in our lives; first day at kindergarten, changing schools, joining sports clubs, etcetera. Some goes through more transitioning situations than others. Fact is that no one can escape going through transitions in life.
After finishing my coach certification program, I realized that I can't be a professional coach without a coaching business. Then, I had my consultancy business, and soon I also realized that managing a consultancy business is quite different from a coaching business. As a coach I am the service, I am the product, I am the brand and I must let people know the value that I can bring and the difference that I can make in their lives. I didn't know how to market myself, but I knew that I wanted to become a fulltime coach, and stop doing consultancy work. I decided that to start my transitioning journey to become a fulltime coach. I've planned to start doing both, and to gradually scale down my consultancy activities while building up coaching.
In the beginning I was very excited and content with my decision. I've bought tons of books about how to start up my coaching business. I started following the most reknown coaches online, subscribed on their websites, blogs and podcasts, attended webinars and live events for coaches in different parts of the world. At the same time I ordered a lot of fun and cool stuffs for my coaching business: new laptop, dual screens, different models of selfie sticks with cool features, desktop and standing tripods with ring lights, microphone, cam corder, big tv-screen in my office. I painted my office, hung on new curtains. I've bought new desks and moved the furniture several times in different positions to get more inspiration. I've build my website and changed it twice.
With all that, I was still working as a consultant, doing some coaching things aside, making extremely long hours every single day. I had no Saturdays, Sundays or vacation days. I tried to combine my participation at those international events with vacation, but I had no rest.
Then the moment came that I felt extremely overwhelmed with all those information that I was accumulating, books that I've ordered and started reading but never finished, online programs that I've bought, but I didn't even click the link to open the program. I was soo tired that I didn't know what to do with myself. I had no time for my husband and family, and lost contact with lots of friends.
It was hard, but it is supposed to be that way, because that is what transitioning is about RIGHT! 'Transitioning is the hardest thing in life'. So, I THOUGHT TOO!
After 17 months of (still) "transitioning", I attended another summit. This was a particular one. It was an epic 3-days virtual weekend summit with Dean Graziosi and Tony Robbins, with more than 8.000 participants around the world. On Saturday, the 2nd day of the summit we got the assignment to decide what is the first thing that we are going to do on Monday, the first day after the summit. I wrote that I'm gonna apply those very special social media tips that Jenna Kutcher (speaker at the event) gave. I was very inspired by that event, and by the partcipants with similar challenges. I had different breakthroughs and especially some very powerful realization moments about my transition.
On Sunday, the last day of the summit, I woke up at 5am with a persistant voice in my mind, 'Carla you know what's the first thing that you need to do on Monday. And it's not those social media tips. It's something else". And indeed, I suddenly knew what I needed to do. I got out of bed, sat behind my computer and I started writing letters to my consultancy clients to end all my consultancy contracts. Just like that.
At that very moment:
I realized that ts was my fear for 'the unknown' held me back for 17 months from doing what I really wanted to do;
I also thought why that fear, since I had the certainty that I knew exactly what I needed to do to transition for real, and I felt more empowered like never before;
I set a date, by which I wanted to start working as a fulltime coach. And believe me, that day was only 3 months away;
I decided that morning at 5am that I want to work with seniors who want to start something new (transition) or grow in their lives, jobs, career, but who feel left out in the midst of all the developments around digitalization, and generational differences at the workplace;
MY TRANSITIONING STARTED THAT DAY AND IT WAS THE MOST FUN, PLEASANT, PEACEFUL, AND JOYFUL JOURNEY IN MY WORKING LIFE EVER.
From the moment that I got that clarity and I made my decison I got a great feeling of peace and liberation that I cannot put into words, and that I have never felt before. And guess what, that feeling never went away. Because now I am doing what I love, I'm still making conscious long hours, and it doesn't feel like work!
This is what I want to share with you about transitioning:
YOUR TRANSITION STARTS WHEN YOU HAVE CLARITY ABOUT 3 THINGS:
WHAT YOU REALLY WANT (what is product, service, niche);
WHEN YOU WANT TO GET THERE (set a realistic date!);
YOU HAVE THE CERTAINTY THAT YOU WILL GET THERE.
When you know these 3, you'll see that your transition starts naturally. This is now the path that I follow for whatever change in life, small or big, simple or complicated.
Seek for those 3 answers, before you start transitioning, otherwise it will be indeed "The hardest thing in your life".
"WHEN YOU START YOUR JOURNEY WITH NO CLEAR DIRECTION, YOU WILL END UP NOWHERE"
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